Learn enough that difficult situations stop feeling personally insulting.

Difficulty feels like an insult when you have no framework for it, since without one the only available explanation is something about you. Knowledge converts the same situation into a recognizable category with known causes, and it stops being personal at that point.

When a problem feels like an attack, learn about that class of problem. Understanding usually reveals that it happens to everyone, which removes most of the sting and leaves something workable.