Competence creates opportunities because trust enjoys predictable results.

People rarely hand over responsibility to whoever is most impressive in conversation. They hand it to whoever they can picture finishing. Trust is a prediction, and predictions need a pattern to run on, so the person with a steady record of finished work becomes the obvious choice long before anyone talks about talent. Opportunity often looks like luck from the outside because the years of predictable delivery were invisible.

Look at the last few things you promised and ask whether someone watching could have forecast the outcome. If the answer varies, that variance is the thing costing you chances, not any lack of ability. Narrow what you commit to until your record becomes boring, and let that boredom do the persuading.