Wisdom is that apprehension of heavenly things to which the spirit rises through love.

Some understanding cannot be reached by thinking harder at it. What raises the spirit towards heavenly things, whether for you those mean God and what is eternal or the highest goods a life can hold, is love, a caring that reaches past your own comfort. Love reorders attention, and the reordering is what lets you see what cold analysis keeps missing.

Notice which of your clearest insights arrived while you were absorbed in someone or something rather than while you were reasoning about it from outside. If you want to understand a situation better, try caring about it more accurately first, and see what comes into view.