Stop proving loyalty by volunteering your self-worth.

There is a way of proving devotion that involves making yourself smaller so someone else feels secure. You take the blame that was not yours, accept the worse end of every arrangement, stay available at your own cost, and call it loyalty. Real loyalty does not require that currency, and the arrangements that demand it are usually not loyal back.

Look at what you have been giving up to demonstrate commitment lately. Ask whether the person would actually want that particular sacrifice if they saw its price. Then try showing up as reliably as ever while keeping the piece of yourself you were about to hand over, and see whether anything real is lost.