The real man smiles in trouble, gathers strength from distress, and grows brave by reflection.

Courage is not a temperament you have or lack. It is assembled after the fact, out of trouble you did not choose and then thought about carefully. The calm some people show in a crisis is usually the residue of an earlier one they went back over instead of shutting away. None of that requires pretending the hard thing was fine.

Take one difficulty from the past year and spend twenty quiet minutes with it. Ask what you actually did, what held, and what you would want to do differently. The point is not to grade yourself but to have something to draw on the next time the ground moves.