Being the example is heavy. It’s also the reason someone younger believes it’s possible.

Carrying other people’s hopes is a genuine weight, and nobody asks whether you wanted the role before handing it to you. What makes it bearable is that proof is scarce, and a younger sibling or cousin watching you do something believes it can be done because they have seen it. That belief is hard to create any other way, and it still costs you something.

Let yourself admit the weight rather than performing ease, at least to one person. Set limits on what you take responsibility for, since being watched is not the same as being in charge.