When the crew breaks into two camps, you’re allowed to set up a third one called integrity.

Group conflicts present themselves as two options and then apply pressure until you pick. Both sides usually want loyalty more than they want to be right, which is why the pressure feels so strong. There is a third position, which is refusing to take part in the parts you think are wrong while staying decent to everyone.

Decide in advance what you will not do, repeat something told in confidence, join a pile on, pretend to agree. Say the same thing to both groups. Expect to be unpopular for a couple of weeks, and notice who respects you afterwards.