Your family’s expectations are a starting point, not a blueprint.

What your family expects is built from what they know, which is their own history, their fears, and the options they were able to see. That makes it useful information about where you come from rather than instructions about where you go. Treating it as a blueprint means living out somebody else’s best guess. Treating it as nothing throws away genuine experience.

Separate what they want for you from why they want it. The reason underneath, usually safety or respect or not struggling, can often be met by a path they never considered. Bring them the reason rather than the argument.