Recovery means carrying wisdom forward without carrying humiliation.

The useful part of a failure is the knowledge; the humiliation is optional freight. Many people carry the second and lose the first, which is exactly backwards. You can hold onto what you learned without also holding onto the story that you are diminished.

When the memory returns, notice which part is arriving: the lesson or the shame. Keep the lesson and let the other one pass through. It gets easier with repetition, and the knowledge is what you actually earned.