You can pick the behavior, but the result comes stapled to it.

Actions and outcomes are sold together, and you only ever get to choose the first half. Most of the trouble comes from picking something while hoping the attached part will not show up this time. It usually does, just later, which is why it feels unfair rather than predictable.

When you are about to do something, spend ten seconds on what normally follows it, not what you hope follows it. If you would not accept that outcome, the decision is already made. If you would, go ahead with your eyes open.