Disagreeing in the group chat with facts and zero insults is a rare skill. Practice it.

Group chats reward speed and heat, so the version of an argument that spreads is rarely the careful one. Making a case without a dig buried in it is genuinely difficult under those conditions, and it is also the only kind that changes anybody’s mind, because nobody has to save face in order to agree with you.

Try it in the next pile on. State what you think, say why, and cut anything that would sting if it were aimed at you. You will lose on volume sometimes. You will gain the people who quietly ask what you actually think.