You can’t carry a grudge and a blessing in the same hand.

Holding a grudge takes ongoing effort, even though it feels passive. You keep the account open, rehearse the story and stay slightly braced whenever their name comes up. That occupies exactly the part of you that would otherwise be free to receive something good. It is not that God withholds, it is that your hands are full.

Name what you are still holding and how long you have carried it. Say it to God rather than rehearsing it again to a friend. Letting go is rarely one moment, so expect to have to do it more than once.