The friend who knows the hard dates on your calendar and texts that day is gold. Be that for someone.

Certain dates land heavily every year and almost nobody else remembers them. A friend who tracks that, quietly, and sends a message on the right day has done something that takes real effort: they had to notice, write it down and then follow through months later. Most support arrives during the loud part, while that kind arrives on the anniversary.

Put the dates in your own phone. The ones your friends carry, not just birthdays. Then text on the day with nothing complicated, just that you were thinking of them. You will be one of very few people who did.