Be the one who stays to help clean up after the party. You’ll learn who the real ones are, because they’re there too.

The end of an event sorts people quickly. Everyone is there for the good part, and then the room empties and a few stay behind with the bin bags and the sticky floor. Those few tend to be the same ones who turn up when something in your life needs cleaning up too. It is less a coincidence than a personality showing in two places.

Be one of them once this week, without being asked. Stack the chairs, carry something heavy, stay ten extra minutes. Look around while you do it and notice who else stayed.