If you’re always in the spotlight, you’re blocking someone else’s light.

Attention behaves like a fixed quantity in a small group. If you take every interview, every last word and every visible moment, there is simply less room for anyone else, and the people around you gradually stop trying for it. That is not vanity exactly, it is often just habit combined with being good at the thing. The result is the same either way, which is a group that learns to stay quiet.

Count how often you speak first in the next meeting or huddle. Hand the next opportunity to somebody who has not had one, and then actually stay quiet.