Your calendar says more about your priorities than your speeches.

What you say you care about costs nothing. What you put time into costs the time, and time is the one thing you cannot get more of. So the honest record of your priorities is whatever your week actually contained: the practices, the shifts, the hours on your phone. People near you already read that record, even if they never mention it.

Look back at the last seven days and write down where the hours went. Compare that with the three things you would claim matter most. Where the two disagree, move one hour, not ten.