You can love your family and still disagree with how they see you.

Families often keep an old file on you, written when you were nine and never fully updated since. That version can be affectionate and still wrong, and arguing with it rarely helps, because it was never built out of evidence in the first place. Loving them does not require agreeing to stay the person in the file.

Let the outdated description go past without fighting it this week, and spend your energy on the current version instead. Show them what is true now rather than explaining why the old thing is not. Some people update slowly, a few never do, and you can hold both without losing the relationship.