Feeling left out isn’t proof you’re unlikable. Sometimes you just haven’t found your table yet.

Being outside a group in one place gets read as a permanent verdict, mostly because the group in front of you feels like the entire world for a few years. Fit depends on who happens to be in the building, what they are into, and when they got there. None of that is a measurement of whether you are easy to like.

Widen the pool this week instead of working harder on the same door. A club, a team, a job, a group online built around the thing you are actually into. Most people find their people by changing rooms, not by becoming somebody else in this one.