Improve your response before worrying about another person’s result.

Watching someone else’s outcome produces nothing usable. Your own response, however, is entirely available and often the actual cause of the difference you are noticing. It is also the only part of the situation that will still matter to you in a year.

When you catch yourself absorbed in what someone else got, ask what you would change in your own approach if they did not exist. That question turns unusable feeling into something you can act on.