Anger can visit. Just don’t hand it a key and a dresser drawer.

Anger is not the problem by itself. It arrives fast, it tells you something crossed a line, and then it wants to stay, because staying feels like strength. The trouble starts when it stops being a reaction and becomes the room you live in, narrating everything, turning small stuff into evidence.

Let yourself be furious for the length of a walk, a song, a shower. Then ask what you actually want to happen next, which is a different question from who deserves what. If nothing useful comes back, the feeling has stopped working for you, and setting it down is allowed.