What would you say to twelve-year-old you? Now check whether you’re living like you’d say it.

Advice for a younger version of yourself comes out gentle and clear, because you can see them from outside and you want good things for them. Then you go back to speaking to your current self in a completely different tone and holding yourself to standards you would never hand a kid. The gap between those two voices is usually large and almost never noticed.

Write the sentence you would say to them and then read it as though someone said it to you today. Pick the one part you are obviously not doing and start there.