Your parents’ double shifts aren’t in any photo album. That’s where a lot of your chances came from.

Much of what made your life possible happened while you were asleep or at school and got recorded nowhere. The overtime, the second job, the meal somebody skipped so the numbers worked: none of it is photogenic, so it leaves no trace except the options you now have. Support designed to be invisible succeeds at being invisible.

Ask whoever raised you what the hard years were actually like, and let them talk past the point where it feels comfortable. If that is not available to you, somebody made room for you somewhere, and finding out who is worth the asking.