If every conversation turns into your highlight reel, people stop tuning in.

Turning every topic back to your own story is rarely arrogance, it is usually nerves. Talking about yourself is the one subject you can handle without preparation, so it fills every gap. The cost is that people gradually stop offering material, because nothing they say survives more than a sentence. They do not announce this, they just go quieter around you.

Try one whole conversation where you ask a second question before saying anything about yourself. Notice how much you learn that you would have talked straight over. People remember being listened to much longer than they remember anything you said.