You can think your family is wrong and still save them a seat at the table.

Disagreement and belonging are separate things, though families tend to treat them as one. You can be certain a parent or a sibling is wrong about something that matters and still not turn them into a stranger over it. Keeping the seat is not agreement and it is not pretending. It is a decision that the relationship outlasts the argument.

Notice whether you have been avoiding somebody at home rather than actually disagreeing with them. Try one conversation that is not about the thing you fight about. You can hold your position and still pass the food.