People don’t argue with you about things they don’t care about. Sometimes a fight means you still matter.

Indifference is quiet. Someone who bothers to push back is spending energy on you, and energy is the first thing people stop spending when they are finished. That does not make every argument healthy or the other person right. It does mean the worst sign in a relationship is usually not conflict, it is a shrug.

Next time someone at home comes at you about something small, try hearing the effort underneath before you answer the words. Ask what they are actually worried about. That question ends more fights than winning them ever has.