Your future is waiting on behavior, not biography.

History explains where you came from and predicts very little about where you are going, because behaviour is what actually determines the next stretch. It is easy to treat your background as a verdict, and it is really just the starting position for whatever you do next.

When you catch yourself explaining your situation through your past, shift the question to what you will do this week. Biography is fixed and behaviour is not, which is why only one of them is worth your attention.