Revenge bills you twice: once for the hurt they caused and once for the person you had to become.

Getting even asks you to carry the injury twice. The first cost was theirs to cause; the second is what you spend becoming someone watchful and hard enough to settle the score. That second cost is quieter and lasts longer, because it changes how you treat people who never hurt you at all.

Notice where the wish to even things out is shaping your day. Ask what you would be doing with that hour if the score were already settled, and then go do some of it.