Hang around people long enough and their normal becomes your normal. Choose whose normal you’re catching.

Standards are contagious in a way that is almost invisible from inside. What the people around you consider ordinary quietly becomes your baseline, and you will adjust toward it without a single decision being made. That works in both directions, which is the useful part.

Look at the three or four people you spend the most time with and ask what they treat as normal. Add time with someone whose ordinary is something you want, not to replace anyone, just to widen the sample.