Congratulating someone who beat you costs nothing and says a lot about who you are.
GRATITUDE
WHAT THIS MEANS
Losing well is one of the few things that is entirely free and immediately visible. The moment right after a result is when people learn the most about you, because the pleasant version of you is not available and something else has to speak. Generosity then costs only a sentence and outlasts the result by years.
When someone beats you, say it directly and specifically before the sting turns into avoidance. Then go find out what they did differently, since the person who just won is unusually easy to learn from.
A QUESTION TO SIT WITH
Who beat you recently without hearing anything kind from you?
MORE IN TRUST, LOYALTY & RELATIONSHIPS
- The right people do not require you to become smaller so the relationship can remain balanced.
- Stop fighting for a spot on the bench of someone else’s life. Pick people who pick you back.
- Telling your parents “you were right about that” once in a while will make their whole month. It costs you nothing.
Free, with nothing to buy inside it.