Asking “what could I do better?” takes guts. Most people would rather guess forever than hear the answer.
RESILIENCE
WHAT THIS MEANS
Not asking keeps you comfortable and uninformed at the same time. Guessing lets you imagine your weak spots are small, while the answer, if you invited it, would be specific and fixable. The fear is that the truth will be crushing, but most honest feedback is smaller and duller than the version you have been avoiding.
Pick one person whose judgement you trust and ask them for one thing. Do not defend yourself while they answer; write it down instead. You can decide later whether they were right.
A QUESTION TO SIT WITH
Whose honest feedback have you avoided asking for this year?
MORE IN COURAGE & RISK
- Merging onto the highway the first time is terrifying. Two weeks later you’re singing along to the radio doing it.
- You don’t need one giant leap. Twenty small brave moves this month get you just as far.
- Try collecting nos on purpose for a month. You’ll notice they stop hurting and start being funny.
Free, with nothing to buy inside it.