The friend who sends you dumb memes on your worst day knows exactly what they’re doing.

Not all comfort announces itself as comfort. Sending something stupid on a bad day is a way of saying I know, without demanding that you talk about it or perform being fine. It gives you an exit from the feeling for thirty seconds and asks for nothing back. People who do this understand something about hard days that more serious approaches often miss.

Notice who does it for you and say so at some point, ideally on an ordinary day. Then do it for somebody else. You do not need the right words when you are not trying to fix anything.