Change is a trade: you give up the familiar and get the possible. Read the offer before you decline it.

Every change asks for something certain and offers something uncertain in return, which is a bad deal to a nervous mind and often a good one in practice. The familiar side gets counted precisely because you can already see it. The possible side gets discounted because it has no detail yet.

When you catch yourself declining something quickly, slow down and write both columns. What exactly are you giving up, and what exactly might you get. Seen side by side, some refusals stop looking like caution and start looking like habit.