Changing your whole personality to fit a crowd means the crowd likes someone who isn’t there.

Adjusting yourself to fit a group works, and that is the trap in it. Acceptance earned by a performance attaches to the performance, so you end up maintaining someone who does not exist in order to keep people who have never met you. The loneliness that follows is specific and slow. Being liked and being known are not the same experience.

Find one thing you hide in a particular group and let it show once. Watch what actually happens rather than predicting it. If the group cannot hold the real version, that is worth learning now.