You can inherit your family’s values and still remix them. Keep the beat, change a few lyrics.

Loyalty and identical belief are not the same requirement. What you were raised with came as a package, and you are allowed to separate the parts that still hold from the parts that were specific to another time and another set of circumstances. Keeping the core while changing the expression is continuity, not rejection, though it may not feel that way to everyone involved.

Name one value from home you would keep without hesitation and one practice around it you would do differently. Say the first part out loud to the people it came from. Most disagreements about change are actually about whether the root was respected.