Tomatoes don’t ripen faster because you stare at them. Some things just need their days.

Attention does not accelerate everything it is applied to. Certain processes run on elapsed time rather than effort, and watching them closely adds only anxiety while producing no change in the rate. The frustration comes from applying a work ethic to something that is not waiting on work.

Separate what you are waiting on from what you can act on, and put the waiting in a different category in your head. Check it on a schedule rather than continuously. Then spend the freed attention on something that does respond to effort.