Pain is expensive either way. Make sure you leave with the lesson so you’re not paying for nothing.

Difficulty does not automatically teach anybody anything. It costs the same whether or not you take something from it, which is the only real argument for going back over it once you are steady enough to look. None of this requires being grateful for what happened or deciding it was meant to be.

When some distance has opened up, write down one thing you now know that you did not know before. Keep it practical and small. If it is still too close, leave it, since the lesson keeps and there is no schedule for this.