When a friend’s secret gets heavy, you carry it. You don’t hand it to someone else to feel lighter.

Being trusted has a weight, and the urge to pass it along is usually about your own relief rather than anyone’s benefit. Telling one more person does make it lighter for you, which is exactly why it is so easy to justify as concern. What gets spent is your friend’s control over their own story, and that was never yours to spend. Carrying it is the job you accepted when you listened.

If it is genuinely too heavy, say so to your friend and talk about who else could help. Let them choose the next person.