Every time you blame someone, you slide them the steering wheel of your life.

Blame can be completely accurate and still leave you stuck, which is the awkward part of it. If the cause sits entirely with somebody else, so does the remedy, and you find yourself waiting for a person who may never change to change. Naming what they did is fair and often necessary. Making your next move depend on their behaviour is the part that hands over the wheel.

You can hold someone responsible and still ask what is available to you now. Find the piece you can move this week, however small, and move it.