Quit saying sorry for standing in hallways, doorways and conversations. You’re allowed to take up space.

LEADERSHIP

WHAT THIS MEANS

Reflexive apologising is pre-emptive shrinking, and it usually began as politeness before turning automatic. The word gets spent on existing in a place rather than on anything you did, which slowly teaches you and everyone nearby that your presence is an imposition needing constant licensing. Apologies matter, and that is exactly why they should be saved for actual events.

Count your sorries for one day. Replace the unnecessary ones with nothing at all, or with thank you for waiting. Notice how much steadier the day feels by the end of it.

A QUESTION TO SIT WITH

How many times did you apologize today for nothing?

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