People change in seasons, not in one conversation. Give them the calendar, not the stopwatch.

One good talk can start something and cannot complete it. Change requires repetition in real conditions, and the person you spoke to has to go back into the same life that produced the pattern in the first place. Judging them on the following Tuesday tells you nothing except that Tuesday came quickly.

If you are waiting on someone to be different, pick a timescale in advance and hold your verdict until then. Months, not days. Meanwhile respond to what they are actually doing rather than to your running tally. Extend the same calendar to yourself.