Glue needs pressure and time. So does anything that’s supposed to hold.

A bond forms under two conditions at once, contact and duration, and neither one substitutes for the other. Intensity without time comes apart under the first real load, and time without genuine contact leaves people politely adjacent for years. Anything you want to actually hold will ask for both.

Name one connection or commitment you want to last, then give it consistent contact over the coming months rather than one large gesture. Show up when it is dull. Set the thing under steady pressure and leave it there long enough to set.