If you’re keeping a list of everyone’s mistakes, you’re running a museum nobody wants to visit.

Keeping score requires constant maintenance. Every remembered slight has to be dusted and kept current, and that work is done entirely by you, in your own hours, while the other person goes on with their week unaware of the exhibit. The list feels like protection and functions like a tenant who does not pay.

Look at what you are still holding and sort it honestly. Some of it needs a conversation you have been avoiding, so have it. Some of it needs nothing except a decision to stop rehearsing, which is not the same as saying it was fine.