Your eyes naturally count what’s missing. Train them to take inventory of what’s already on the shelf.

Noticing absence is the default because absence is where the risk is. It is a useful setting and a poor one to leave running all day, since it guarantees that every situation presents itself as a list of what is not there. Presence has to be looked for deliberately, because it never arrives on its own.

Once a day, name what is actually here, in plain specific terms rather than grand ones. The people who answered, the thing that worked, the food in the kitchen. You are not arguing with the problems, only making sure the other column gets counted too.