If every relationship ends with the same fight, you’re the one common character in the plot.

A pattern that repeats across different people usually has something to do with the one person present in all of them. That is not the same as saying it was your fault, and it does not excuse how anyone treated you. It only means the pattern is worth looking at from the inside, where you have some say over it.

Write out how the last two or three endings actually went, plainly, without deciding in advance who was wrong. Look for the move you make when things get tense. Knowing your own move is what gives you the option of making a different one.