Time turns most big problems into small stories.

Distance changes the size of things. What is happening now takes up the whole field of view because you are standing inside it, and in a few years the same event will be a paragraph you tell someone over dinner. That is not a promise that it stops mattering, only that its proportions change.

When something feels total, try asking how much of it you will be carrying in five years. Some things will still weigh, and it is fair to say so. For the rest, the question can give you a little room to breathe today, which is usually what is needed.