If you see your parents twice a year after you move out, that’s a number you can count. Count it once. Then visit more.

Arithmetic makes abstract things suddenly concrete. Twice a year sounds like a reasonable rhythm until you multiply it out, at which point the total stops being a rhythm and becomes a quantity. Nothing about the situation has changed, only your ability to see the size of it.

Do the sum once, honestly, and then stop doing it, because dwelling will not help anybody. Use it to change one thing, an extra weekend, a standing call, a visit not attached to a holiday. Then let the number go.