Notice who always waits for you to apologize first. That pattern is doing a lot of talking.

Mending things tends to fall to the same person, and once that pattern sets it stops being noticed by anyone but the one doing it. Waiting is comfortable when you know someone else will break the silence, and it can look like being wronged when it is a habit of not moving. The imbalance matters more than any single argument.

Next time, wait a little longer before you do the usual thing. Not as a punishment, only to see what happens when you are not the mechanism. And say it out loud once, plainly, that you seem to be the one who always goes first.