Whoever brings you everyone else’s secrets is also carrying yours somewhere.

Gossip feels like closeness because it comes with the thrill of being let in. What it actually shows you is a habit, and habits do not make exceptions for you. Someone who trades information will trade yours the moment it is interesting enough. The flattery of being told is the part that makes this hard to see.

Next time a conversation turns into other people’s private business, notice how much you volunteer in return. You can stay warm and still give less. Keep the things you would hate to hear repeated for people who have never repeated anything.