Intense people get noticed. Steady people get the spare key.

Attention and trust tend to go to different people. The loud, vivid, high-energy person is easy to notice and hard to rely on, while the steady one accumulates something slower and worth more, which is the sense that they will be the same next month. People hand the important things to whoever they can predict. That choice is made quietly and almost never announced.

If you are not the one who gets noticed first, keep going rather than trying to become louder. Be the person who answers, turns up and finishes. In time you will be handed things nobody thought to ask the loud person about.