If a friend always has a crisis and never asks about yours, you’re not their friend. You’re their hotline.

Support that only runs one way stops being friendship and becomes a service. Some people are genuinely overwhelmed and still never ask about you, so every conversation begins in their emergency and ends there. You can care about someone and still notice that you are functioning as a resource. It leaves you tired and a little invisible.

Bring one thing of your own into the next conversation and see what happens to it. If it goes nowhere, say directly that you need some of the attention as well. Their response will tell you whether this can become mutual.